BostonJock's Delicate Balancing Act – Corporate by Day; Adult Content Provider by Night

Since having ended his relationship with his fiancé, Lucas has attempted dating only to learn that his adult career is something of a dealbreaker. "First of all, my partners obviously need to be comfortable with me filming content and me having sex with other people. I am very capable of separating a romantic relationship from my content work. Actually, I started my content pages when I was with my ex-fiancé. We had a long conversation before I started it to make sure that he was comfortable with it. We had ground rule set up so that we were on the same and I would check in periodically to make sure. That is, that he was still comfortable with what I was doing. When I started looking to date again, my content work became a huge consideration. And I learned a lot of people aren't okay with it. I found that there were several people that I met who wanted to date me, but they weren't okay with me filming content. if I have had to make a choice, I will choose content. So, it limits the options of people that are available."

While progress has been made to normalize adult content, such judgment against it isn't suprising. Even Olympians, such as Matthew Mitcham (amongst others) have received criticism the same thing, which Lucas sees as unfortunate. "I think those attitudes are very close-minded. Society is a whole I think is still stuck in Puritanical ways of not letting people live their lives and be happy. So, it doesn't surprise me that it's happening at the Olympics as well. These people don't see how somebody else can have differing values than theirs. I think it's a real shame that those folks are being as close-minded and trying to instill their values what they see is acceptable or appropriate or normal on other folks. I'm a big fan of the living live and let live if it is not hurting you."

Lucas knew he was attracted to other boys when he was 10 or 11 and messed around some while in high school; but didn't accept he was gay until he was 21; and even then was very careful about sex. By then he was in the Navy, having joined after high school to become a nuclear reactor operator, and the Clinton era policy of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" was firmly in place. He recalls it cast a long shadow on those in the military. "A lot of people don't realize that there were some very strict, very aggressive policies around it. I have some friends that spend time in the brig because they were found on base kissing their boyfriend. They went to a military prison because they were found kissing. I had a commanding officer that made very public threats to the whole crew if he found out that any of us were gay. He said he would make sure that we suffered for it and throw us in the Brig. It was not a good situation.

"I was very deeply in the closet while I was in the Navy. But when 'Don't Ask. Don't Tell' was repealed in in 2013, it became a more tolerating environment. Still there were people still very unhappy about it. Not much they could do about it. I stayed I stayed very deeply in the closet until 2017 when I finally came out to my command because of some things that were going on. My commanding officer at the time encouraged the gay men under his command to be more open about their sexuality. He felt that as a senior enlisted serviceman we could help the junior enlistees that were gay. I had a private conversation with him and told him I was gay and in a relationship. Though I wasn't comfortable making that public knowledge, I was willing to help. Long story short. He ended up convincing me to come out to the command. It was probably the worst decision of my entire life. If given the chance to go back, I would never have agreed to do it. It was not a safe and comfortable environment. I know plenty of people who were having sex all over the base, doing all this crazy stuff, and didn't get caught, I applaud them. That was not my experience."

In the Navy he was placed on a nuclear submarine where he was a nuclear reactor operator, an elite technician he was attracted to when recruited after high school. "I thought it sounded really cool and flashy – not that I understood exactly what it entailed." That was, he recalls, working in the hot, tight environment of a submarine's engine room. "It's like being in Industrial power plant. A lot of steam. A lot of oil. And very little space. And in the front half where we live is cramped. You don't have a whole lot of room for personal stuff. Privacy is not really a thing because everybody's cramped together. It's a small tight environment that's not for the claustrophobic at all. We had times when we were underwater for a long period of time. The longest was 78 days. No sun, no fresh air. When you come back up and you see the sun for the first time it's a little disorienting."

And don't expect Lucas (or Boston.Jock) to move out of the city that he's named himself for. "Like I said, when I got out of the Navy, I was engaged to my fiancé who was born and raised here and had a house. That was 2019 and I got a job here. I changed jobs in 2020 in the middle of the pandemic, which was really, well, interesting. I didn't break up with my ex until the end of 2022, but I had a job and had made friends so decided to stay. So here I am."

For more on Lukas Strong (aka Boston.Jock), visit his Slink Page on Instagram.